If your inner voices are conflicting,orchestrating them will help. There might be enthusiastic, frightened, warning or urging voices. And each voice deserves to be heard. Because it has important things to tell you. However, these voices cannot all have their say at the same time - especially when you are talking to others. Find out which voice should take the lead without neglecting the other aspects of yourself.
Let us decode your talks and discussions. What did you understand - and what was being said in reality? What did you say - and what did you want to say? What did you objectively find out about the situation in question, what did you say about yourself, which demands did you hear and what is your relationship with your interlocutor? You will make yourself better understood if you take all the elements of a discussion into account. And you will be better able to hear what is really being said to you.
What fascinates you, might be frightening. What used to be attractive has lost its attraction. A fresh start might be a good thing - but it's too late for you? Did you not enjoy that everything could be planned and that there were no surprises? There is a tension between intimacy and distance, between change and consistency and everybody has their own priorities. Find out where you are at home in regards to these matters and learn to understand the differences and the similarities between you and your interlocutor.
Stop analysing. Try to concentrate on your wishes instead without immediately limiting yourself. Plan your goal without the "ifs" and "buts". What would be the best solution you could wish for? Dream for a little while and thus develop your own ideas for the small and the big steps you will need to take on the way to making your dream come true.
